1 Peter 3:7
“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”
I grew up with no sisters – matter of fact I had two brothers so it was 3 boys all of the time. This meant I had a lot of learning to do as I got older!
But growing up one of the most important lessons I was taught was to always respect and look out for the ladies in my life. I was told you hold doors, always offer to buy dinner, and listen when she speaks, to just name a few lessons. I don’t believe this is just a lesson our parents taught us but rather something God has taught us through His Word…
My wife and I have been married three years this November and in understanding the power and context of this verse, it has opened up an incredible world of what God says my responsibility is as a husband and as a man.
Recently I have counseled several couples who are preparing to get married or who were just married. And In pre-marriage counseling and marriage counseling, I have learned that in everything there is the “easy to understand” and the “hard to understand” when it comes to the topics we discuss. Sometimes they are on board right away and sometimes it takes a bit longer to get them to see what God is seeing.
In this verse, the “easy to understand” is the Husbands must give honor to your wives. A lot of guys get this. We have to respect our wives and as it says in Ephesians 5 we must love our wives as Christ loved the church.
But what is hard to understand “She may be weaker than you are…”
LADIES, Peter – the author here – is not saying that you are weak in a derogatory way, or morally or even intellectually. He was actually referring to the fact that in that time, ladies were physically weaker, more vulnerable to attack and abuse, and not afforded the same advantages as men.
Ladies, even in today’s world – this can be true. Sure, some of you are definitely physically stronger than us guys J What I am talking about is that there are still some unfair disadvantages and vulnerabilities that exist.
And what Peter was saying was that our role as guys is to look out for our wives, and to look out for the ladies in our lives. To protect you and support you. To be there to lift you up when the world knocks you down. To always be willing to try to show you the unconditional love that Christ has showed all of us. And that is what this verse is all about!
Let me speak to two groups of you this morning…
Guys – My encouragement is for you to become the type of man that we are reminded to be here in scripture. Look for ways to lift up, encourage and support the person you are with and always be their Champion, even when the world tries to get the best of her.
Ladies- My encouragement for you is to seek out a guy that feels that way about you. That is always there to build you up and not tear you down.
Ask yourself today, am I fulfilling the role that God has designed me to fulfill? How is this affecting the relationship I am in or the relationship I am seeking to be in?
Nick Mustakas started working at The Journey in March of 2010 and in the past almost 5 years has served as the Pastor of Ministry and Growth Groups Pastor at The Journey -Manhattan and now has the incredible opportunity of serving as the Pastor of The Journey Church – Staten Island! He is celebrating three incredible years of marriage to his wife Julie on November 26 and their son Noah will be 1 year old on the 28th of this month- November is a BIG month for his family!